• (⬤ᴥ⬤)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      18 hours ago

      Idgaf if dude can be gendered

      good for you, some people really don’t want to be called that.
      part of respecting someone’s identity is respecting the terms which they want and don’t want to be called by.
      getting them wrong doesn’t make you an asshole, getting them wrong and not caring does.

      People need to get over themselves

      in this context this is identical to Conservative “the new generation is too sensitive!!!” drivel.

            • Seleni@lemmy.world
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              10 hours ago

              Uh-huh. Seems you already know your stance is wrong.

              Say it, you coward. You’ve already been blowing all the dog-whistles you can find, surely you have the guts to actually say the things you’re thinking.

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                  Huh. That’s interesting.

                  Earlier you were saying that you reckon people are oversensitive about use of ‘dude’. You took the angle that it can be ungendered, and so people shouldn’t be oversensitive about its use. But now you mention ‘race-swapping’ and trans women. Apparently it is you who is oversensitive. You are upset about the way people express themselves in cases where it has no practical impact on you. You could just ignore it completely, with no cost and no impact, but for some reason you rail against it instead. It’s interesting what riles some people up.

                • octopus_ink@lemmy.ml
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                  7 hours ago

                  Let the downvotes and blocks ensue because I’m going against the consensus opinion here😔

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      19 hours ago

      I use “my guy” as a humorous precursor to the rest of my sentence regardless of whom I’m speaking to.

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      15 hours ago

      Are you okay having the tables flipped and someone calling you “sis”?

      Using male language as the default may not bother you and you may have no ill intent with it, but it does have a history tied to it. A history where women were seen as less than and didn’t have equal rights. Western society still uses male language slang regardless of gender (hey guys, dude, bro, bruh) and it all stems from a history of a patriarchal society. Every time we say, “hey guys” to refer to a mixed-gender group, we perpetuate patriarchy, whether we intended to or not.

      Legally and overall culturally, women are still seen as less than and we still don’t have equal rights (e.g. divorce and abortion law).

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        15 hours ago

        women are still seen as less than and we still don’t have equal rights (e.g. divorce

        Actually women have superior rights during divorce, in the western world anyway. Try to keep the children as a man during divorce.

        • enbyecho@lemmy.world
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          14 hours ago

          Actually women have superior rights during divorce, in the western world anyway. Try to keep the children as a man during divorce.

          Found the incel. Please donate my prize money to any organization that supports passing the ERA.