• Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
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    7 months ago

    Why, though? Serious question, why is it so hard to have a conversation with a person? I am introverted, I don’t socialize much, I wouldn’t be able to walk up a pretty girl and ask her out, but making a phone call? I don’t see the problem.

    Please don’t get me wrong but it’s very hard not to see this as a “get over yourself” problem. I pushed myself “over myself” many times when needed, “call that girly that you like, just effin do it!”

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      7 months ago

      A face to face would be fine, I just find that the shitty quality of a phone call and the fact I can’t see their face or body language completely destroys my ability to both understand and be understood.l and especially my ability to judge their emotional state. Unless I have both written down what I need to communicate and write down everything they communicate I will remember nothing that happened. These aren’t problems I have in a voip call at all, I spend all day in teams calls.

      I still make them from time to time, but I will jump at any option to not have a phone call even at extreme inconvenience.

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      7 months ago

      Introverted is one thing, but when you have the right mix of anxiety and ADHD it can sometimes feel impossible. But that can also be a motivator to get it done if your brain is in a conducive mindset at the time.