• rabber@lemmy.caEnglish
    3·
    20 hours ago

    A very good friend (30 years old) is dating a woman who is approaching 60 and I just can’t for the life of me understand why

  • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
    37·
    2 days ago

    You have to act like the father figure, and best to do it in a way he can’t turn down.

    So pay his fucking college bills, dumbass!

  • Washedupcynic@lemmy.caEnglish
    143·
    2 days ago

    If this is true, holy shit. I once dated a woman 16 years older than I was, I was 26. She had 4 kids ranging from 8, 17, 19, 20. I never attempted to parent the older 3 kids, and they never asked me my age; it was an unspoken agreement. I did parent the 8 year old. The older kids asked for my help a handful of times over the 7 years I was a part of their family, and I happily helped them and stepped up when I could. They were shocked I helped. I was like look, I’m not your parent, I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life, but you are still family and I got your back.

    In retrospect, it was a pretty unhealthy relationship, but I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

    • Harvey656@lemmy.world
      2·
      20 hours ago

      My wife is 14 years older than I am. Honestly things are great for the most part.

      We have one thing you, nor the post have though: no kids. Kids would ruin this relationship honestly, but a big part of our lives is being selfish for teach, if that makes sense. But its great, wouldn’t trade my woman for anything.

    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
      40·
      2 days ago

      I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

      You’re not really in your 20s if you aren’t doing a certain amount of stupid bullshit

      • icelimit@lemmy.ml
        7·
        2 days ago

        Want to get older? Pass a competence test. Want to stay old? Pass a competence test.

        Fail? Straight to the recycler

    • ramble81@lemmy.zip
      25·
      2 days ago

      I read “She was 26” and kept trying to figure out that math because I didn’t like the answer I was coming up with. Turns out it’s just my reading comprehension that wasn’t working out.

      • Dozzi92@lemmy.world
        20·
        2 days ago

        Not OC but it’s always retrospective. I am 38 and look back at my 20s and reflect on mistakes. Caring too much about how I was perceived, not caring enough about how I perceived myself. Not being honest with myself. Fortunately years and increased responsibility put into perspective the important versus the unimportant. I focus in things that make me happy, make my family happy. I focus less on doing things just because other people are doing them. I did a lot of stuff I didn’t want to do in my 20s because of where I was at in life.

        And hey, not everyone’s dumb in their 20s. And if you’re in your 20s, there’s no point in reflecting on it. You are where you are, you do what you do, your life will end up wherever it ends up.

        • ZkhqrD5o@lemmy.world
          1·
          21 hours ago

          Nah. We decide everyday who we are, with every choice we make. Procrastination is a choice, as is healthy food. We don’t “end up” somewhere out of the blue, most of the time anyway. I can’t decide to I become famous, or rich, or whatever. But I can decide to eat healthily, educate myself and do certain things. So I’m going to do that.

        • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
          6·
          2 days ago

          How’d you get them to activate abilities? I could see a set up where you train them to turn left or right in reaction to something on the screen. Install a mod to make the health bar take up 25% of the screen, and then activate heals based on them turning left, activate damage abilities when they turn right. Train them to turn left if the bar starts dropping, right if it rises.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      12·
      2 days ago

      Yeah when I was being the young hot piece of ass for a woman with a kid my age I knew where I stood: proof mom is a cougar

    • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
      8·
      2 days ago

      Not dumb at all, it was a core life experience, not much different than many people go through. It’s fairly common with the gender roles reversed.

    • TheYojimbo@lemmy.world
      931·
      2 days ago

      I mean, first you have to know eachother since you were 14, your parents change you schools because her comportment is being problematic but she finds you anyway… Then you can lie about being neither left nor right while pandering to the alt right, and only then you get to be president.

      • loutr@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        29·
        2 days ago

        Very important step you missed: be scouted out by the financial elite early on, then have them groom you every step of the way.

  • pseudo@jlai.lu
    57·
    2 days ago

    And that, young people, is why you should not post your photo on the internet.

    Be glad that’s not even something sexual.

  • jcs@lemmy.worldEnglish
    241·
    2 days ago

    Does the 21 year old need a father figure at that age? Is their biological or step-father not around? I don’t see the need for the 21 year old to accept an 18 year old as a father figure since they’re already an adult. Express personal boundaries but let them live their own life.

    • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
      11·
      1 day ago

      Some people just live the most insane lives.

      My mother used to be a teacher and at one point in her class back in the 80s she had four kids who all had the same father, but different mothers, the largest age difference between the youngest and the oldest was 5 months. He wasn’t even attractive he looked like a drug addict, I don’t know what the women saw in him.

      He wasn’t in the picture for any of them and had to pay alimony for four different kids, to four different mothers. He couldn’t afford this because he was barely employed himself, and so he faked his own death. He managed to get fake passports and everything.