• rabber@lemmy.ca
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    7 hours ago

    A very good friend (30 years old) is dating a woman who is approaching 60 and I just can’t for the life of me understand why

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    You have to act like the father figure, and best to do it in a way he can’t turn down.

    So pay his fucking college bills, dumbass!

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    If this is true, holy shit. I once dated a woman 16 years older than I was, I was 26. She had 4 kids ranging from 8, 17, 19, 20. I never attempted to parent the older 3 kids, and they never asked me my age; it was an unspoken agreement. I did parent the 8 year old. The older kids asked for my help a handful of times over the 7 years I was a part of their family, and I happily helped them and stepped up when I could. They were shocked I helped. I was like look, I’m not your parent, I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life, but you are still family and I got your back.

    In retrospect, it was a pretty unhealthy relationship, but I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

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      My wife is 14 years older than I am. Honestly things are great for the most part.

      We have one thing you, nor the post have though: no kids. Kids would ruin this relationship honestly, but a big part of our lives is being selfish for teach, if that makes sense. But its great, wouldn’t trade my woman for anything.

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      I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

      You’re not really in your 20s if you aren’t doing a certain amount of stupid bullshit

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        Want to get older? Pass a competence test. Want to stay old? Pass a competence test.

        Fail? Straight to the recycler

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      I read “She was 26” and kept trying to figure out that math because I didn’t like the answer I was coming up with. Turns out it’s just my reading comprehension that wasn’t working out.

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        Not OC but it’s always retrospective. I am 38 and look back at my 20s and reflect on mistakes. Caring too much about how I was perceived, not caring enough about how I perceived myself. Not being honest with myself. Fortunately years and increased responsibility put into perspective the important versus the unimportant. I focus in things that make me happy, make my family happy. I focus less on doing things just because other people are doing them. I did a lot of stuff I didn’t want to do in my 20s because of where I was at in life.

        And hey, not everyone’s dumb in their 20s. And if you’re in your 20s, there’s no point in reflecting on it. You are where you are, you do what you do, your life will end up wherever it ends up.

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          Nah. We decide everyday who we are, with every choice we make. Procrastination is a choice, as is healthy food. We don’t “end up” somewhere out of the blue, most of the time anyway. I can’t decide to I become famous, or rich, or whatever. But I can decide to eat healthily, educate myself and do certain things. So I’m going to do that.

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          How’d you get them to activate abilities? I could see a set up where you train them to turn left or right in reaction to something on the screen. Install a mod to make the health bar take up 25% of the screen, and then activate heals based on them turning left, activate damage abilities when they turn right. Train them to turn left if the bar starts dropping, right if it rises.

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      Yeah when I was being the young hot piece of ass for a woman with a kid my age I knew where I stood: proof mom is a cougar

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      Not dumb at all, it was a core life experience, not much different than many people go through. It’s fairly common with the gender roles reversed.

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      I mean, first you have to know eachother since you were 14, your parents change you schools because her comportment is being problematic but she finds you anyway… Then you can lie about being neither left nor right while pandering to the alt right, and only then you get to be president.

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        Very important step you missed: be scouted out by the financial elite early on, then have them groom you every step of the way.

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    And that, young people, is why you should not post your photo on the internet.

    Be glad that’s not even something sexual.

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    11 hours ago

    I could never date a woman that old. She’s not even fertile and already lost that youthful spark

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    19 hours ago

    der Witz ist doch auch der 21-Jährige, der sich für viel reifer als der 18-Jährige hält. lacht in 55jährig

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      Ich kann mich wage erinnern, das früher jedes Lebensjahr als entscheidender unterschied für jüngere betrachtet wurde.

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        Ja, das waren ja auch große Veränderungen. Aber im Vergleich zur längeren Lebenszeit ist halt noch richtig viel mehr drin.