Two weeks ago, I had a date with a girl I met through a dating app. She was really nice, we had a great conversation and she told in person at the bar she would love to see me again.

Well fast forward a week, I keep texting her to set something up, but she’s not responding. I think she’s ghosted me. I mean, that’s fine, but if you don’t want to date me anymore, then just let me know. I will respect your decision.

Dating is so frustrating sometimes… It’s really fucking hard and I sometimes feel lonely because of my lack of success. I have a good job and I’m a nice guy… but eh… I digress.

  • Smathy@kbin.social
    1·
    1 year ago

    I have definitely told guys at the end of a date that I “want to see them again” while having no intention of seeing them again. It’s a safety thing. IME guys can Jekyll and Hyde pretty hard when being rejected.

    I know it can hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, my safety > your feelings

    • ComatoseSquirrel@lemmy.ml
      2·
      1 year ago

      I would never recommend putting yourself at risk, but ghosting the person after lying that you’d like to see them again is just a dick move.

      • Smathy@kbin.social
        11·
        1 year ago

        After being threatened, stalked, followed and sexually assaulted by men I’ve rejected in person, I’m totally okay with being mean if it lets me avoid all that.

    • borkcorkedforks@kbin.social
      01·
      1 year ago

      I’d get saying it if they ask but might not need to be said if they don’t ask for a second date on the spot.