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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • The goal of the game is to click on all of the squares without a bomb, without clicking on any square with a bomb. Each number represents exactly how many bombs are touching that square, including diagonally. When you logically narrow down which square has a bomb in it (E.g. because there is only one unclicked square touching a square with a 1), you put a flag on it, representing that there’s a bomb underneath it. In this image, there is a square with a number 4. This square is touching three flagged squares, representing three bombs, and two squares that may or may not have a bomb. We know that there must be one more bomb touching the 4, but it’s impossible to narrow down which square has the bomb. So you have to click on one of the squares, and there’s a 50/50 chance that either you guess right, or you step on a bomb and lose the game. It’s a fairly common scenario in an expert level game.






  • “Hey hubby, I’m not sure why, but when you say “Hey come here” to me, I feel really stressed as I’m walking to you not knowing whether it’s a good ‘come here’ or a bad ‘come here’. Can we workshop a way to communicate that doesn’t feel so stressful to me? Could you say something like “hey, babe, something is happening wherever/whatever, come see this.”?”

    Tell him what you are feeling until he understands and wants to help you feel less stressed. Another option is to ask while you are walking, something simple like “good or bad?”


  • I have multiple bank accounts for me and my wife. My wages get direct deposited into my “monthly Bills” checking account. Then I have a spreadsheet that calculates how much needs to stay in there and how much needs to go to other accounts. I have a groceries account and a joint spending account, which is mostly for take-out food. Then what’s leftover gets split into personal spending money for each of us. I often cheat, and move money from one account to another, but before I do that, I always make sure I’m keeping track of regular monthly bills and other needs. It’s envelope budgeting, but without cash.

    One point I’d like to make is that I have a good job now, but most of my life I’ve lived in poverty. It’s hard or impossible to budget under such circumstances, and you just have to sorta do your best day to day. It wasn’t till I had reliable steady work that I’ve been able to do well budgeting.