How difficult is it running your own instance. I’m very interested in that.

Matrix is a protocol that if used slows any messenger to communicate with each other kinda like lemmy federation. There are many messengers that use it and if you establish a bridge you can use your matrix client to message people on signal or what’s app

Simplex, element(or most matrix compatible messengers) session, bchat. If the goal is to get your family to switch over though good luck.

If you want to fly across the country you will pay about the same price as it is to drive for one person but arrive days earlier. If you take your spouse the flight just doubled in price but the car ride has stayed the same price. Take two kids or any friends and the flight price has quadrupled but the car ride is still the same price. Once you’re at your location if you flew you are now in a new city with all your luggage but no transportation. If you drove you are in charge door to door. Trying to get groceries for a family in any city in the U.S. and it’s way to long of a trip to do it daily and impractical to take a weeks worth of groceries on the bus. Outside of maybe New York City public transportation is a single man’s game.

Wait you can see lemmy feed from mastodon. Please teach me this magic I have both Mlem and mastodon but I’m never on mastodon if i could interact with lemmy on there that might change everything.

I don’t think I’m understanding this right cause it sounds like you’re trying to make it more fun by adding more rules. If there are 20 groups that are all about pickles that’s fine they each like running things their own way. Eventually one group gets popular and that’s where the majority goes. I think your frustration could better be solved with something like tags where groups could choose to associate certain tags words that makes search easier like tag: pickles-fermenting-homemade-cucumbers and that could clear up search from people just wanting to share pickle Rick memes.

That’s really interesting and wasn’t my experience at all. I wonder what other requirements are out there for different instances?

You wrote about this in your application? What application? Do some instances require an essay to join?

The topics and advice where wildly outdated and he didn’t want people starting at the beginning and taking advice that he has already matured passed himself or use procedures that just don’t work anymore.

Am I missing something I see a downvote button?