How long did you wait until getting a new account? After my ban, I was getting my new accounts autobanned within minutes

I’m only here because of an unjust reddit ban, and I’m very sad to say that I still would prefer reddit to this. The shear scale of reddit means there was always something interesting me through the far more varied and active communities available there. Lemmy is great and all, but I feel way less engaged with anything going on

I was active, and even a recognized name on some subs where I was particularly active, but here, those same communities are either woefully underpopulated and inactive, or just straight up don’t exist. When I need to ask questions or get a wide variety of opinions, or even share a story, I knew reddit had enough activity for me to get at least some traffic. Here, I haven’t even made a post

Sorry, Lemmy, but we’re only together because reddit left. You’re my rebound

It really is the only conclusion I could come up with that made sense, but it was still just such a strange sight

Very early in the morning, while walking to the bus stop to school, I saw, on the side of the road, just walking there, a Lobster. I am sure of what I saw. I went down to it, looked at it, really got close. It was a friggin lobster, miles away from the ocean. Now, I do live in Florida, so we’re never really all THAT far from a beach, but I wasn’t exactly coastal. A pretty long and arduous journey for a little crustacean to make

Yeah, I mean you’re absolutely right. There is a male default assumption we tend to have. Maybe it’s a quirk of language, but I think it’s certainly more cultural. Our preconceived notions of “person in internet” is masculine, even though women use the internet just as much and make up half the population. The only time it’s not the case is when you’re in places that are exclusively for women, or in places where the hobby is so dominantly feminine

For simple shit like this, I don’t think it’s particularly harmful or malicious. We invent a person we’re talking to online, and the more often invented person is a man. It’s more a symptom of the greater culture at large, and effectively just a part of our language. We have “they” but I think there’s also a gender-neutral “he” that we just don’t recognize that arose from the male-as-default idea. Intentionally misgendering, on the other hand, is 100% a shitty thing to do, but that’s an argument on a different topic anyway

My own username explicitly alludes to my gender and I still get called a man about half the time. I don’t really care or anything, but I think it’s funny

The manosphere is so sad. I sorta hate how fascinated I am by it, and it seems like it is so incredibly easy for men to get sucked into it. I’ve seen guy friends go down that path, and I never would have predicted it. I’ve heard from other guy friends who crawled out of it that I never would have even expected it

Sorry you went through that, but better seeing that shit sooner rather than later. I really don’t know how anyone can think “I bet if I told them they were just naturally dumber than me, they’d think it was hot.” Clearly men are not all that logical if they keep falling for manosphere bullshit XD

You know your worth, so you just keep chugging along. Having no man is better than having a bad man

select mates

Where are you picking up that kind of lingo for human interactions, friend? Maybe it’s just a quirk of yours, but I only ever see this kind of language from incels and incel circles, and it’s not just the “mate” line, but the whole of your post

So I’ll opine. You’re seeing something that’s confirming to a preconceived notion. Not gonna say there are no women who don’t like their bad boys or actually toxic people–god knows I know some of those women–but it is hardly the standard, and your anecdotal accounts mean you’re subject to things like social class and circles, culture, and region. Besides that, it could still be plainly untrue what you see, but its possible you are only even registering the women who fit this idea. There could be 20 women in happy, healthy relationships, but you’re not thinking about them. You’re only considering the woman in a toxic relationship, and when you try and recall the dynamics you know, only thos come to mind

This is fairly common mindset for incels, red-pillers, that whole group. They’ll talk about how easy it is for women to have sex, but it’s because their idea of women is already “something to have sex in”, so they’re not open to the idea that there are plenty of women who do struggle with dating

And besides that, who are you to judge the men they’re with? You say they’ll avoid 10 awesome dudes for [cavalcade of generic reactionary insults], but are those 10 dudes really awesome? You’re not dating them, nor do you have a woman’s lived experience to watch out for certain yellow or red flags that those men may clearly be displaying. Alternatively, maybe what makes an awesome dude to you is not actually what makes them awesome to women. Maybe the guys you’re calling bad boys aren’t as bad as you think, is what I’m saying

Or yeah, maybe you’ve just seen and know a bunch of women who have made some poor choices. For whatever reason, it does happen, after all. Women are not immune to subscribing to ideas of toxic masculinity, and we can be vicious about it. We shouldn’t, but we can

Juts try and make sure that whatever spaces you’re occupying, especially the kind you’re picking up that incel jargon from, you think critically about what they’re saying. It is so incredibly easy to get sucked into the manosphere

Thanks for that trip down memory lane. I was just a child when I saw that, and my first thought was “but… But when I steal from someone, they don’t have it anymore. If I download it, they still have it”

My issue is that Disney should then not have its own streaming platform, and that, yeah, Netflix shouldn’t make its own shows

Now as for the videogame comparison, I’ve heard it before, but developing for different consoles is not the same. Making a game for switch hardware, and for xbox hardware requires multiple versions of the game. You don’t film multiple versions of a movie for different platforms. It’s part of why I don’t think all games should be available on all platforms. I believe that they shouldn’t have to be on all platforms, and that it should be up to developers which consoles to make games for, but yeah, that means that there are gonna be exclusivity deals. Would be nice to avoid, so that if Fromsoft decides to make BB2, they have the free reign to make it for PC, but my point is that game development is more complicated than movie streaming

Anyway, yeah, I think Disney+ can go fuck itself right back from the muck it crawled out of, and that Netflix has to stop making its own stuff (Or allow competitors to use it)

I’ve yet to have any issues for longer than a day with just adguard and adblocker on firefox, though I hear it hasn’t worked for everyone. Alternatively, you can just try out invidious

I mean, yeah. If I can watch Cartoon Network regardless of my cable provider, then I’m choosing them based on how well they provide for me that cable. They do good work, get reliable cables, fix outages quickly, are affordable, fucking great

This is rooted in the early days of cinema, in which theaters were also owned by the studios, and so would only show the stuff the studio produced. Was gonna go into it in my comment, but decided against it to keep it short. Another commenter also mentioned it, and that’s pretty much what I’m proposing. I’m suggesting specifically that they have to show everything in order to also avoid exclusivity deals. Part of that, though, would also be to just not let Netflix produce its own content, but if it didn’t, you’d be able to watch it on amazon anyway

I was gonna include that in my original comment, but decided to just end it there for the sake of brevity, but yes, exactly this

A streaming service’s product is the service of streaming stuff to you. It’s not a studio. Studios make those products. The streaming services give you a platform to watch them. Their product is their website

Then they better step up their game. Compete with each other by improving their services, or lowering the prices to draw in customers

As an anime watcher, this would extend to anime as well

Well my point is they wouldn’t be subscribed to all the services. They’d pick one. You wanna watch “Show A”. None of these platforms are allowed to have exclusivity rights to it. So do you choose Netflix? Hulu? Amazon? It’s up to you, since you don’t have to choose only the one that has it. Now your decision to give money to Netflix, for example, is based on the fact that the service they’re providing–UI, ease of access, streaming speed–instead of them being the only ones who have “Show A”

Imagine selling a service by virtue of the quality of your service. Ridiculous

Theoretically, having multiple streaming platforms should be good, as it prevents a monopoly. Problem is, they all have monopolies, on specific shows. Choosing the streaming services you want isn’t about choosing the better product, but on which shows you have. All streaming shows should have all shows available. That’s the only way to properly decide which service is worth paying for