Like, why is it so widespread, what causes it, what solutions are available, etc. I don’t really know how to ask this question so I hope I’m making sense

  • xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    if men display feelings, they’re seen as bitches by men, and weak by women (exceptions exist, but generally speaking).

    basically, a piece of toxic masculinity….
    men are only allowed to display emotions of anger or mild happiness.
    i think this is a big reason why sports are so popular… it’s more about camaraderie than anything else.
    also why they like to get drunk and say “i love you man” and all that mushy stuff.

    in a nutshell: because they’re taught to be that way.

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      if men display feelings, they’re seen as bitches by men, and weak by women (exceptions exist, but generally speaking).

      I don’t care if “alpaha” males think I am a soyboy, but you ain’t keeping a partner if she got the “ick”

      And most women get the ick over random shit including something that they might perceive as unregulated emotions.

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        i agree… i just don’t think that’s an inherent thing in women and it’s a symptom of a sick society…

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          Good point, it could very well be. Sadly, it’s really hard to tell why, and which women will respond with it. I’ve never heard a woman alluding to it irl, but I have seen them respond in both ways.

          The ick is huge. The only woman most men can open up to without playing russian roulette is their mother (assuming a healthy relationship).