Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.

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      Uhhhh at least… they…

      nah, I got nothing. I can’t even muster a sarcastic backhanded defense for poor foster parents. Fuck that guy, and I’m glad you turned out well despite him.

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        You’re a good person. I don’t normally share, but I feel I should.

        I was put in foster care when I was 6/7 (I don’t remember well).

        When I was 12, after 7 foster homes, my parents lost all parental rights. I was put up for adoption.

        At that time, I was still with one of my brothers in a foster home.

        We were told a couple was interested in us. We meet them a number of times, and had a few weekends at their place to test run it. They weren’t great, but they weren’t worse than other foster homes, so we decided to give it a try.

        My brother lasted about 9 months before asking to go back to foster care. I decided to stay, because I was tired of moving.

        I was adopted at 14, and moved out on my own at 17. I was tired of being reminded I was broken in some ways.

        Fast forward to me being 21 and in the navy. We start talking again. By then I was beginning to learn what I now consider my personal morals. He was still racist. I wasn’t.

        Fast forward to a few years ago. He’s still wildly racist. More so than before. I am now a very liberal person, advocating for homeless rights foster youth assistance, LGBTQIA+ rights, and equality all around. I have finally had enough. I call his bullshit out. About 2 years passes, and his 14th heart attack takes him.

        That was 2 years ago. My oldest is 24. My next oldest is 18. They never met him. I just couldn’t bring myself to introduce them to the old school hate.

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          I was tired of being reminded I was broken in some ways.

          I grew up strongly religious. There’s only so much “You’re a dirty sinner and all your suffering is God’s plan” you can take. I think I know how you feel.

          his 14th heart attack

          Damn, even Death really didn’t want him, huh?

          They never met him. I just couldn’t bring myself to introduce them to the old school hate.

          I think that’s the right choice. I wish the best for ypu and yours.