I don’t think people don’t really act their religion, it’s the religion that acts them, or embodies what their ideology is, or what the ideaology of the state is, or ruling class. The best definition I’ve heard for ideology is, “the mechanism that harmonizes the principles that you want to believe with what advances your material interest.”

I grew up fundamentalist in the Mennonite Brethren and Evangelical Baptist tradition, then and was exposed to some Christian Socialist ideas and the New Monasticism movement in my later teen years. The radical pacifism of my ancestors required they migrate around Europe to avoid anabaptist persecution, conscription and military service, and they got very lucky by avoiding both the Russian Revolution escaping to the Weimar Republic (which included bribing train guards with paska buns), and the rise of the Nazis by emigrating to Canada.

I’m now an atheist but find a lot of atheists are not very knowledgeable about religion and use their performative opposition to it in a way to assert moral superiority in a way that gives them power in a political and civil religious sense. To me many atheists are ardent followers of civil religion, accepting the morality of individualism and the default morality of our culture, which itself has a lot of Christian aspects. As a Christian I found myself essentially untouched by all atheist arguments because they didn’t seem to recognize the religious beliefs I had. We actually read some of the New Atheist books like God Delusion in Bible Study, an agnostic religious professor was present at a session to answer questions and provide better resources for anyone interested.

Christianity is not worthy of hate. It’s a pacifist religion that very specifically calls for a separation of church and state, and glorifies the meek.

That’s where you’re wrong kiddo. Christianity has been a religion of violence since its inception.

Don’t judge groups or individuals for what they say. Judge them for what they do. Compare what they do to what they say. Evaluate the difference to decide if you should trust them. Christianity is and pretty much always has been a religion of violent extremists who will quickly resort to some of the worst tendencies imaginable. The vast majority of civilization destroying tragedies of the last two thousand years can be attributed either directly or indirectly to the spread and or conduct of Christianity. If not that, then Christianity found its way into the justifying elements. There is nothing redeeming or virtuous about Christianity or Christians, by merit of their actions. Its mass child graves in Canada, or Ireland, or any where else you find Christians; its the consistent and repeated attempts to turn women into a second class of people; its the othering of any religion, creed, or race they can’t or haven’t subjugated: Christianity lacks any redeeming qualities, and should not be apologized for.

Who cares if there are a microscopic number of truly good pacifist Christians? Almost assuredly those people would also be good people without the stone of Christianity hanging around their necks.

The incredibly small number of “good” Christians do not even come close to making up for or justifying Christianities actual material role in making the world a worse place.