Thank you!

It’s a response I developed explaining to people why men aren’t allowed to work alone with women in my field. I often throw in, “If you were a predator, what kind of job would you look for?”

People with developmental and intellectual disabilities are five times as likely to face this abuse as their neurologically typical peers, because many of them can’t report that abuse as effectively.

It’s my experience that the few men of the world who find this stricture upsetting do so because either they are pretending to be one of the “good” ones in order to get close enough to abuse someone, or because they believe themselves incapable of abuse and chafe at being paint with the same brush. To them I always ask; which is more important to you, that you aren’t being seen as a potential predator, or that we have a system designed to keep as many people as possible, as safe as possible? Because we can’t have both.