Couple who married in Germany had their right to a ‘normal family life’ impeded, court of justice finds

  • Twongo [she/her]@lemmy.ml
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    how far we´ve come. 40 years ago poland was the most progressive country in europe regarding homosexuality because unlike everyone else they never criminalized it. homosexual people were not harassed by the state and gay bars were a thing even in 70´s socialist poland.

    it really depends on the generation. i have yet to meet a homophobic pole that was born in the post-war period, they generally have a quite egalitarian stance on it with (expected) slight prejudice but no outright hate.

    late baby boomers and gen x-ers though… OH BOY. most of these fucks need reeducation by a proper beating or something. i have yet to meet a gen x-er pole that´s not a complete piece of shit regarding their views on homosexuality and women.

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      The far right movement spearheaded by Victor Orban has spread. The world of far right go to Hungary for their meetings.

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        orban may be a factor in this, but the rampant homophobia in poland has been around since before the ussr fell

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      Single data counterpoint: I have met genx poles who are much more positive and I’d call friends.

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      40 years ago poland was the most progressive country in europe regarding homosexuality because unlike everyone else they never criminalized it.

      Damn, that’s wild. What was Poland like 40 years ago?

      flips open history book

      Omg, you’re a fucking tankie! TANKIE! TANKIE! Mods, get this guy out of here!!!

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    I’m so tired of right wingers in Poland. They will always repeat the same stupid argument that because in our language word “rodzina” (family) contains the core “rodzić” (to give birth), and therefore it’s an institution for reproduction, so gay couples are not families. Words ethology makes more sense than anything else right

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      So people who can’t reproduce shouldn’t be able to get married either, hysterecomies and vasectomies invalidate your marriage and preclude future marriage. Women have to get a divorce and can’t remarry once they’ve gone through menopause. In fact, men can’t give birth at all, so only women should be able to get married. Makes sense to me!

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      Etymology, slogans, rhymes or catchy acronyms give our brains the illusion of hearing something that makes sense. Repeating them a million times drills them in your neural pathways. Plus they are easy to scream loud enough to drown any attempt at intelligent conversation.

      That’s right-hand populist communication in a nutshell.

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        Right away it reminds me of justification for the double standards on having sex with a lot of people man vs woman. When you’re man, you have the key that opens a lot of gates, while if you’re woman you have the gate that can be opened with multiple keys.

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      I am from Slovakia. This will be such an ammunition for the current fascist government. I can already see all the press conferences that pig will appear in. There was a quiet talk about leaving EU for a while. Then they made a law where slovak law is above EU law. And now this. My fear is that if there will be a referendum about leaving EU, more than 50% will be for it. I bought a house five years ago and I was slowly repairing it. I moved in just this year. If not for that, I would already be gone from this country.

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        Imagine hating other people loving each other enough to prefer a dictatorship…

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          They also pleasure themselves through your abuse while still reaping the benefits of your economic activity. They’re basically good either way whereas you’re better off without them if you can manage it, the same dynamics as an abusive couple

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        I’m sorry 😔 I have two friends from Slovakia and they are really worried too. They don’t live there anymore but they left before Fico.

        But yes good point this could cause them leaving the EU. I doubt that they will push for that though. Because of subsidies. Same reason why Hungary doesn’t consider leaving.

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      There are also tons like Italy, Czech republic, Croatia that have civil unions, but I don’t know if they respect foreign marriage.

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        Really? Wow I didn’t realise there were still countries without gay marriage in Europe. Well except the Vatican maybe 😂 but yeah if they respect them from other countries no idea

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    Honestly I don’t know why the state is still in the business of giving out marriages. Who gives a shit what other people want to call marriage. The state should not even have the authority to perform marriages at all. It should be left as a cultural or religious institution. It has no right to legislate what is and is not marriage. The only thing that should be available is civil unions, being defined as a financial and legal union of two or more consenting adults.

    That way, anyone can “get married” at their local church, at a secular ceremony, or piss-drunk in a pub by a barmaid. It would be legally vacuous and has only the meaning that the parties ascribe to it, or that is given to it by the religious authority they choose to follow. But if they want to be legally joined together then they would go register a civil union at the local registrar’s office.

    If you’re a bigot and don’t consider two men in civil union to be married, cool, whatever, the law should not care about your opinion. You can privately think “those two are not married” all day, and be right in your mind. The only people whose opinions matter are those who want to call themselves married. There is no institution of “marriage” to defend, because you’ve already won. You can consider marriage to be anything you want and be right. Now you can leave other people alone.

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      The state cares insofar as your partner gets certain rights and will be included as family in many things.

      For instance, deciding for you in medical cases, being informed if something happens, getting money from your life insurance whatever.

      No marriage would mean the two are not connected at all in the states eye and thus not family.

      You could say, ok lets just enable putting that into some record without marriage, but the state wants to safeguard itself as you can get things like citizenship and such

      And in most states that is what you define as civil unions (there is no marriage as such often).

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        I don’t think this is at all a valid counter-argument as all of these powers can equally be given to civil unions, if they aren’t already. In my eyes, if you propose to someone and “get married” and want to give your spouse the legal powers associated with what was previously marriage, you would register a civil union.

        No civil marriage doesn’t mean that people can’t connect themselves legally; it just means that you have to register a civil union to do so. All of the points you raise are easily defeated by just defining civil unions to replace marriage in all respects. The system is already very close to how I describe. You can “get married” at a church or wherever else and in most countries that does not mean anything until you have registered it with a local registrar. I’m just saying that the thing that happens in a church is “marriage”, and the thing that happens with the legal paperwork at the registrar’s office is called “civil union” regardless of the genders or sexualities of the parties involved.

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          Sorry, I think we are talking of the same thing. In Germany that is the way it is. Civil union and marriage is equivalent, you dont have to get married at a church, the only important thing is to go to the state for a few minutes and tell them basically.

          I thought that the problem was that the state still has to accept things such as (whatever you call it lets say) unions of things such as same sex partner and so.

          Problem is the civil union is mostly historically influenced often (tends to be less these days)

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      completely agree. the fact that this hasn’t been the widely adopted solution show that ppl are either really stupid or not actually interested in solving the problem.

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      No clue why you’re being downvoted. I grew up in Eastern Europe. It’s a shithole of misogyny and pseudo-masculinity, like an infection by proximity with Russia and Turkey.

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      The Catholic church has a very strong grip on Polish culture (and often government), which is what drives a lot of things like this

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        I’m familiar, I’ve been around polacks my whole life. The American branch is quite similar to their European counterparts.